!!> Reading ➵ Well, That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist ➭ Author Franchesca Ramsey – Pcusati.info

!!> Reading ➵ Well, That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist ➭ Author Franchesca Ramsey – Pcusati.info What s interesting even special about this book is that it can be a good resource no matter how woke you are or think you are A lot of books about intersectionality and activism seem to be aimed at people who don t know anything about the topics, which is important ground to cover but can be boring if you already have fundamental knowledge of the vocabulary and concepts others have a level of detail and or aggression that can alienate readers This one is neither.Through the lens of pe What s interesting even special about this book is that it can be a good resource no matter how woke you are or think you are A lot of books about intersectionality and activism seem to be aimed at people who don t know anything about the topics, which is important ground to cover but can be boring if you already have fundamental knowledge of the vocabulary and concepts others have a level of detail and or aggression that can alienate readers This one is neither.Through the lens of personal experience, Ramsey gives us an approachable narrative with experiences that contextualize and humanize the lessons learned without being sanctimonious These are thoughtful takes on complex topics I can appreciate where she s coming from, and I do agree that to some extent your intentions matter Only to some extent, though there are some missteps in the text itself for example, a nod to trans brothers and sisters, but many nonbinary genderqueer folks also identify as trans Still, it s difficult to unlearn a lifetime of societally ingrained biases, especially when people seem to jump on you no matter what you do say And it s acknowledged throughout the book that it is a continuous learning journey mistakes are inevitable, so what really matters is making it right inasmuch as is possible, and doing better going forward I was not actually required to read this book, but it was mentioned as recommended reading at a leadership seminar training I attended CONVERSION 11.5 15 4 starsProse 8 10Intellectual Engagement 8 10Credibility 9 10Organization Structure 7 10Emotional Impact Interest 4 5Rereadability 3 5Memorability N A Franchesca Ramsey has been an Internet personality I ve enjoyed watching since she joined MTV s Decoded She s smart, open, and willing to learn just as much as she s willing to guide teach This book was basically activism 101, and is absolutely something I would have enjoyed deeper if It had come up a few years ago As I am further into my activism journey, this felt redundant That being said, just because it wasn t applicable for me, doesn t mean it s not relevant I think this is a fine b Franchesca Ramsey has been an Internet personality I ve enjoyed watching since she joined MTV s Decoded She s smart, open, and willing to learn just as much as she s willing to guide teach This book was basically activism 101, and is absolutely something I would have enjoyed deeper if It had come up a few years ago As I am further into my activism journey, this felt redundant That being said, just because it wasn t applicable for me, doesn t mean it s not relevant I think this is a fine book for folks just starting their journey, but can be passed up by folks a littlewell seasoned in the activism world In This Sharp, Funny, And Incredibly Timely Collection Of Personal Essays, Veteran Video Blogger And Star Of MTV S Decoded Franchesca Ramsey Explores Race, Identity, Online Activism, And The Downfall Of Real Communication In The Age Of Social Media Rants, Trolls, And Call Out Wars Franchesca Ramsey Didn T Set Out To Be An Activist Or A Comedian Or A Commentator On Identity, Race, And Culture, Really But Then Her YouTube Video What White Girls Say To Black Girls Went Viral Twelve Million Views Viral Faced With An Avalanche Of Media Requests, Fan Letters, And Hate Mail, She Had Two Choices Jump In And Make Her Voice Heard Or Step Back And Let Others Frame The Conversation After A Crash Course In Social Justice And Than A Few Foot In Mouth Moments, She Realized She Had A Unique Talent And Passion For Breaking Down Injustice In America In Ways That Could Make People Listen And Engage.In Her First Book, Ramsey Uses Her Own Experiences As An Accidental Activist To Explore The Many Ways We Communicate With Each Other From The Highs Of Bridging Gaps And Making Connections To The Many Pitfalls That Accompany Talking About Race, Power, Sexuality, And Gender In An Unpredictable Public Spacethe Internet Well, That Escalated Quickly Includes Ramsey S Advice On Dealing With Internet Trolls And Low Key Racists, Confessions About Being A Former Online Hater Herself, And Her Personal Hits And Misses In Activist Debates With Everyone From Bigoted Facebook Friends And Misguided Relatives To Mainstream Celebrities And YouTube Influencers With Sharp Humor And Her Trademark Candor, Ramsey Shows Readers We Can Have Tough Conversations That Move The Dialogue Forward, Rather Than Backward, If We Just Approach Them In The Right Way. I listened to this on audiobook I honestly thought I would like itthan I actually did I didn t dislike it by any means It just made me realize that I don t have to agree with or share in the philosophies of all black activists A lot of what was portrayed in this book was interesting and I DID agree with It was nice learningabout the author and how she came to be who she is Mistakes and all.But I almost felt a little let down by how simplistic everything was While she made g I listened to this on audiobook I honestly thought I would like itthan I actually did I didn t dislike it by any means It just made me realize that I don t have to agree with or share in the philosophies of all black activists A lot of what was portrayed in this book was interesting and I DID agree with It was nice learningabout the author and how she came to be who she is Mistakes and all.But I almost felt a little let down by how simplistic everything was While she made good points, a lot of the bite that I needed, just wasn t there in her writing She told me nothing new This book brought nothing new to politics and activism And maybe it wasn t supposed to, because she IS an accidental activist Which, again, isn t a bad thing I do think this book is a brave endeavor because she s opening herself up to people like me, and others, who are going to pick apart her life s story I applaud her courage All I m saying is if you already have your finger to the pulse of black activism, then this book isn t really going to give youthan what you re already engaged with I learned a whole lot The internet is mean, people can be hateful and we live in the era of call out culture I also learned that it s important to respect the culture and sensitivities of others, to stand solidly in my own truth while keeping an empathetic mindset and that it s useless to argue with internet trolls.Francesca moved my needle on a particular topic interracial dating and marriage It s already hard for them and their families to navigate and it s none of my business To each his I learned a whole lot The internet is mean, people can be hateful and we live in the era of call out culture I also learned that it s important to respect the culture and sensitivities of others, to stand solidly in my own truth while keeping an empathetic mindset and that it s useless to argue with internet trolls.Francesca moved my needle on a particular topic interracial dating and marriage It s already hard for them and their families to navigate and it s none of my business To each his own, love and respect to everyone You can be woke and socially conscious and still be in an interracial relationship I have a ways to go to be on the pro side of the argument but the needle has moved closer to the middle.The book delves into all the pitfalls of the social media era, call out culture, call in culture, hash tags, and social justice I minternet savvy for having read it and also considerablywoke than before I finally get intersectionality Thanks Francesca I received an advanced reader copy of this book through a Goodreads giveaway I ve been a fan of Franchesca Ramsey for a while and have followed her success and evolution from YouTuber to panelist on The Nightly Show with Larry Wil and host of MTV s Decoded Ramsey s book recounts this journey for those who may be unfamiliar with her work and provides important context surrounding it for those who are.Ramsey s book reads like an extended version of one of her videos in the sense that it pro I received an advanced reader copy of this book through a Goodreads giveaway I ve been a fan of Franchesca Ramsey for a while and have followed her success and evolution from YouTuber to panelist on The Nightly Show with Larry Wil and host of MTV s Decoded Ramsey s book recounts this journey for those who may be unfamiliar with her work and provides important context surrounding it for those who are.Ramsey s book reads like an extended version of one of her videos in the sense that it provides readers with information about issues of race, gender, sexuality, and inequality, infusing humor and frankness whenever possible What distinguishes the book from her videos, is Ramsey s openness about her stumbles and downright failures as a social media and television personality She admits at multiple points in the book that sharing these failures is difficult but important to do Alongside these reflections, Ramsey shares advice to readers about navigating social media and in person interactions that are now so often grounded in call out culture Readers should not worry about unfamiliarity with Ramsey or even the terms she uses to describe these phenomena call out versus call in TERF MRA etc are defined for readers both in the text, through footnotes, and a useful glossary at the end of the text Ever the teacher, Ramsey s writing reassures readers that not knowing something does not remove them from the conversation Rather, it positions them as listeners who have a chance to learn.There were sections of the book that I wantedfrom In one chapter, Ramsey describes the various television shows, movies, and songs that she has decided to boycott due to racist, sexist, cissexist, etc content While this list might be helpful for those who are curious about Ramsey s viewing or listening habits, it differs from other chapters in the sense that it does not provide a heuristic or method for reaching those conclusions about other media Readers might be amused that despite her dislike, Ramsey still hate watches Game of Thrones, but they might not have a clear idea of when or how to articulate why they want to stop watching, listening, or participating in any given show or fandom Arguably the most useful sections of Ramsey s book are on call out culture and how to best address a friend, family member, co worker, or even rando that posts or says something racist, sexist, or homophobic Ramsey s attention to how to avoid feeding trolls and alienating friends while fully admitting she has been guilty of both gives readers a place to start engaging meaningfully with people they care about on difficult subjects There s even a flowchart on when to unfriend someone Ramsey s book is a great tool for those unsure of how to navigate what seems like an everhostile social media and in person climate Whether you re engaging in larger scale activist activities or simply trying to confront your Uncle Ron about his fascination with racist memes, Ramsey s book is a guide worth picking up I won an ARC of this book through a GoodReads giveaway This book strikes a remarkable balance between Franchesca Ramsey s personal experiences quirks, snafus, and all and reader education Because she so deftly switches between the two, it never comes across as preachy or holier than thou, and that s hard to do She is humble, and yet clearly experienced and knowledgeable about what and how she has come to learn all that she has as an activist I appreciated her vulnerability, by which I I won an ARC of this book through a GoodReads giveaway This book strikes a remarkable balance between Franchesca Ramsey s personal experiences quirks, snafus, and all and reader education Because she so deftly switches between the two, it never comes across as preachy or holier than thou, and that s hard to do She is humble, and yet clearly experienced and knowledgeable about what and how she has come to learn all that she has as an activist I appreciated her vulnerability, by which I mean her courage in sharing the parts of her journey that aren t polished and neat She allows the reader to sit in that discomfort with her, but also join her in growth She models the kind of self reflectiveness that we all could benefit from adopting especially in this current political and social climate I like to think of wokeness as a journey and not a destination, and I think it goes along well with what she has to say about activism being like long division in that you have to show your work None of us start off as perfectly formed activists and if we ever feel as if we ve arrived, it s probably a sign that we need to take a step back and reassess Thank goodness for Ramsey s well timed book and for her continued commitment to doing the work and allowing us to share in her successes and lessons learned Published in 2018, the how to be a better activist self help memoir, Well, That Escalated Quickly Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist, by Franchesca Ramsey, is a useful and funny book to read I recommend it to anyone who is looking for a crash course in modern social justice activism It s a very quick read, something you can finish in a day or two I m glad that I read this book, but there were parts that made me really angry I needed a few weeks to let my anger calm before I co Published in 2018, the how to be a better activist self help memoir, Well, That Escalated Quickly Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist, by Franchesca Ramsey, is a useful and funny book to read I recommend it to anyone who is looking for a crash course in modern social justice activism It s a very quick read, something you can finish in a day or two I m glad that I read this book, but there were parts that made me really angry I needed a few weeks to let my anger calm before I could type up this review.When I picked up this book, I didn t know who Franchesca Ramsey was, so I had to go online and look up the YouTube video she filmed that made her a star It s titled, Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls The video is a remake of a misogynistic comedy video titled Shit Girls Say a video I did not watch, because I don t need the extra misogyny in my life Franchesca Ramsey s remake video dealt with misogynoir the combined racism and sexism that black women face I will note that Franchesca Ramsey has never made a video titled, Shit White Boys Say to Black Girls Or a video titled, Shit White Boys Say to Black Boys Without the comedic engine of misogyny to run on, those videos would never be popular enough to go viral, of course, which certainly dampens the appeal Don t mess with the Almighty Patriarchy, and all of that White Boys are king, but go ahead and mock dumb blondes all you like, which is what Franchesca Ramsey does in Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls She puts on a blonde wig and talks like a vapid sorority sister, or like those clueless rich women that people make fun of in movies like Pretty Woman like those snooty sales ladies who won t let Julia Roberts shop in their store You can certainly laugh at the video, because its real comedic heart is running on the dumb blonde jokes people can t ever seem to get enough of To the blonde haired women of the world I am truly, truly sorry Please be warned about that blonde wig before you click on the video As to the misogynoir in the video, Franchesca Ramsey used comments people have said to her in real life for her script, and her video shed light on the fact that a lot of white women and probably white men, too treat black women like animals And I m sure those women and men had hair of all different colors The video made Franchesca Ramsey internet famous, and she was interviewed on shows like Anderson Cooper 360 to talk about it Her fame ended up launching her career in online and television media and social justice activism.I m glad that she made this video and shed light on this problem I just wish she had called out the white boys along with the white girls I m a white woman, and I ve never asked a stranger if I could pet their hair like a goat, or spoken any of the lines used in the video I have certainly cuddled up with black people in bed before, and have touched my share of black hair, but being in bed with someone is not the same as meeting someone at a cocktail party and immediately grabbing at them like they re a sweater on a sales rack It s extremely sad and sh tty to me that white people do this crap to black people.Franchesca Ramsey isn t the first writer or activist to shed light on this problem, but her video was a great step forward in educating white people to please knock this sh t off The first seven chapters of the book are focused on memoir material, and Franchesca Ramsey uses sentences with I to narrate this section in the first person.But starting with Chapter Eight page 119 , the book shifts into a second person narrative, and Franchesca Ramsey begins to address the reader as you Her tone changes from a person struggling to learn about social justice activism into the voice of a teacher or expert, and this is where the book ran into problems for me Once Franchesca Ramsey takes the stance of a teacher or activism guide expert, then the content of her book suddenly becomes problematic This is a woman who is trying to teach the reader about racism, ableism, misogynoir, and other forms of oppression she even includes an extensive glossary of terms at the end of this book and yet she wrote ableist language throughout the text of this book, and neither she nor her editor thought to remove it It makes me sad and upset If this had been solely a memoir, I would have taken the ableist slurs in the text the way I do most ableism I encounter in books it s pretty much everywhere, and people are clueless, and it is what it is.But This book is a teaching manual And you shouldn t act like you re teaching someone about ableism and put ableist slurs in your social justice activism book I just don t understand why this EVER passed as okay.For example, on page 62, Franchesca Ramsey is educating the reader about why the term spirit animal should not be used by anyone who is not Native American Above that paragraph of text, she is describing the difference between calling in and calling out offensive behavior and speech The call in voice is like the stupid airplane noises you make when you re feeding your nephew a spoonful of veggies The word stupid is an ableist slur that appears again on page 98 and page 215 She also has this line on page 74 I ve often joked that The Relaxer sounds like a crappy horror movie in which a maniacal killer tortures natural haired women with scorching hot chemical ooze and then forces them to pay money for it Linguistic ableism like this is very common I can understand why Franchesca Ramsey used terms like stupid and maniacal this way But for an activism manual that addresses the reader as you, and specifically talks about disability activism, these slurs should have been removed from the text But the part of this book that actually hurt me arrived on page 150, when Franchesca Ramsey is teaching the reader why using the word spaz is not okay Within this page of text is a story about how she and her theater friends in eighth grade used to go out in public together, and one friend would pretend to be a mentally disabled character she called Sylvia Sylvia would do obnoxious things in the store, while the other theater kids would all pretend to be her inept caretakers Sylvia would ask ridiculous, embarrassing questions of the staff such as holding up a box of feminine hygiene products and asking, Can I try these on and then Sylvia would sometimes trash the store by knocking a row of adult diapers off a shelf, before everyone in their group would run out of the store This was, by far, the sh ttiest thing that takes place in this whole book A group of eighth graders who are out mocking people with mental disabilities and cerebral palsy by behaving obnoxiously and knocking over store product and damaging property is worse than any other behavior described in this book, including Franchesca Ramsey s transphobic sidewalk comedy routine that she discusses later A comedy routine she abandoned once she realized it was transphobic.Franchesca Ramsey also seems to believe that every able bodied person goes through some kind of phase of hating on people like this when they re young If this sounds so high school, that s because high school is where you learn this kind of behavior page 121 122 I m sorry, but no No, Franchesca Ramsey You re wrong Not everyone learns this behavior in high school Franchesca Ramsey repeats in this book that she did not grow up rich And what she means by that is actually this I have a lot of class privilege that I refuse to acknowledge in the same way that I have a lot of able bodied privilege that I refuse to acknowledge But you should still listen to me because I am smarter andwoke than you and here s my glossary of terms to prove how educated I am Franchesca Ramsey is like a lot of people who grow up middle class or upper middle class they get very upset when anyone calls them rich because they refuse to see how many people are a lot lower on the socioeconomic scale than they are These people only want to consider those who are financially equal to them or people who they financially aspire to be, not any of the millions of people who are economically beneath them.I want to tell Franchesca Ramsey this I grew up in poverty, and when you grow up in poverty, your friends are whoever will take you You don t get to hate on people with disabilities, the way affluent, able bodied kids can be ableist assholes like you and your friends were in eighth grade You did grow up with class privilege, Franchesca Ramsey And you can whine and whine all you want about how not rich you are, but I can tell you right now, you were a lot better off than me, and in my world, you DID qualify as rich I would have definitely used that word for you growing up And if I d seen you performing your ableist comedy show in a store with your friends, my friends and I would have definitely been disgusted by you and your rich friends We would have certainly known you were assholes Reading about Franchesca Ramsey s sh tty behavior, coupled with all of her I am not rich commentary, plunged me into a dark night of the soul Bad memories from my own years in high school and junior high resurfaced, and I thought of all my friends growing up who had physical and mental disabilities Some had dyslexia so severe they never learned how to read some friends had autism but we didn t know what it was at the time my brother s best friend in high school was legally blind and impoverished, and he spent a lot of time at our house my mother was mentally ill and had a number of mental breakdowns that required time spent in a psychiatric ward my best friend in childhood couldn t even graduate high school because it was easier for the school to expel her than to give her the assistance she needed She had suffered brain damage from a car accident when she was a small child, and her family lived in poverty, and some school systems just get rid of people like that, instead of helping them.And then here is Franchesca Ramsey Assuming that all of us learn how to hate and mock people beneath us just because we re able bodied and attending high school.No No, we don t all learn this Privilege allows for that bullshit Privilege teaches this level of hatred But grow up on the bottom, and there s no one beneath you to hate on When you re on the bottom, you can t avoid people with disabilities because you re too busy mocking them in comedy routines with your theater friends And you don t understand that, Franchesca Ramsey You still haven t learned that lesson Or you wouldn t write so much ableist class privilege into your book Despite how angry and upset parts of this book made me, I would still recommend it to anyone who wants to learnabout modern social justice activism I would not give this book to anyone who grew up in poverty or has a physical or mental disability without first warning them that there are some ableist slurs on the page and a lot of unacknowledged class privilege Reading this book helped me have an epiphany about how microaggressions are often erased in fiction novels, short stories, Hollywood films for the simple reason that microaggressions are how good people uphold oppression today As a fiction writer, I frequently turn to nonfiction like this memoir to learnabout how people think and behave, and Franchesca Ramsey has a lot of great material to share about modern online activism and the dangers that lurk there She also shares a lot of wonderful material about growing up with natural black hair and learning how to appreciate the beauty in her natural hair There is a great deal of educational material in this book, and there is fargood in this book than the few parts that deeply upset me Books written by the middle class for the middle class are the norm in publishing It just hurt that I could see places in this book when the author basically says, I m not talking to you Maybe she ll make a video titled, Shit People Say to Disabled People as a public service for her activist causes Or Shit People Say to Poor People Which could also be useful And she won t have the blonde wig any, because she ll be done with the dumb blonde jokes, having recognized that jokes that run on ableist misogyny are punching down, and are therefore not helping A girl can hope, anyway.3.5 stars HOLY SHIT I WON MY FIRST GOODREADS BOOK So excited to read this tear Okay So thank you goodreads for picking me ME to review this book and the dozen of others who have read it, you get appraise too But seriously, I am proud to finally be one of those people who can write a goodreads review for a book I got for free.Franchesca is a familiar name to me Mainly because I hivemind on ONTD and that s how I found out about her I watched her publicity rise and supported her through and thr HOLY SHIT I WON MY FIRST GOODREADS BOOK So excited to read this tear Okay So thank you goodreads for picking me ME to review this book and the dozen of others who have read it, you get appraise too But seriously, I am proud to finally be one of those people who can write a goodreads review for a book I got for free.Franchesca is a familiar name to me Mainly because I hivemind on ONTD and that s how I found out about her I watched her publicity rise and supported her through and through All though he has made mistakes here and there, she is one of my favorite ladies to listen to when it comes to feminism and woc rights I being a white girl can and will never understand what woc of face, but reading her book, I am allowed to see where I stand where I am needed Her book is not only like a self help book, it s a tale about a girl who was thrown into the world of activism without actually trying to be one in the beginning She humbly admits her faults, her struggles, her fears and comes clean about a few things Better yet, she takes her haters head on and allows me, the reader, to find better ways to get around those ugly conversations you have with friends who are not on the same mindset as you are regarding race and equality.I really recommend her book and will always look forward to anything else she releases 3Thank you goodreads for allowing my first book to be one I really wanted to read This book is less memoir andguide to how to critique and be critiqued, told through her own mistakes and experiences I have somewhat followed Fran s career i.e I followed her on Snapchat and tried to remember to watch The Nightly Show so was somewhat familiar with lots of the stories she shares but appreciated being reintroduced to them from her current perspective A really fast, enjoyable read and a good reminder that we can all do better.

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